The Reaperman

Saturday, November 04, 2006

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November 4

I'm helping out backstage again. I can't get enuf of theatre now. Its Aida Mansoors production (elizebeth moir) Dazzle. It is not hugly gr8, but its fun. Me dinesh, dininda & chamat are involved. The guys dont do a very good or convincing job in acting. The singing is ok, but the dancing is super. its over today. There are a whole lot of smal kids making me feel very old. Its feels like i have stayed the same age, and everyone else has become younger!!!

After last night, we went to commons for dinner. It was late in the nite, and there were a large crazy lot, including fereoze, siraj, the backsatge boys and sonlai and her friends., We re-arranged the furniture, and made a huge huge racket. Brought the house down. the food thre is expensive, but everything we had was amazingly tasty. I had a huge choc chip, fudge frap or something which is just too good.
Tonght is the last day and there is a cast party, but because it is a school productin, i am not sure of what to expect, although the students are quite wild...so anythign can happen ;)

A bunch of us met a week and a half ago to decide what we were gonna do next year. Feroze's idea is 6 small plays over the course of 1.5 months with a play every weekend. Each one will be directed and produced by a different team. They are small plays with a very small cast. most of the plays have a cast of about 2 ppl. AAnd the themes of the play are all wird and wonderful. Some funny, some dark etc. He wanted me to help out with the production and even act in one of them WOWOWOWOW. Wonder why he thinks i can act when there are so many better actors who have acted for a much longer time out there. I am an ameture. But i am excited. It will be cool. All the plays will be at the punchi theatre. The emphasis is on real theatre. Not glamourous stuff like R&J or Venice this time. Which i am for all the way. Because this will be serious stuff.

Its xmas...i am listening to xmas songs. And it feels super. yay

Thursday, October 26, 2006

Pic enabled blog :))

Oh my god. I learnt how to insert pics. Isnt this amazing. Wowowowowowowowo This is amazing. So is the most amazing car i have ever seen. Ford mustnag. Such amazing power. Really cool

Conversations with a girl

You see the thing about eid and bhora's is very simple. For instance, if i were to ask you what day xmas is..you would 25th of december right. Similarly the first and last day of ramazan (which is a month) is always the 1st and 30th of the month of ramazan. and we cannot fast more or less than 30 fasts. The muslims follow a lunar calender, unlike the rest of the world which fllows a christian calender which follows the phases of the sun...anyway of rsome inexplicable reason, the majority of muslims believe that they have to look for the moon to begin and end the month. So what happens is the sky is cloudy???? Therefore what invariably happens is that although the bhoras begin the fast on the 1st of ramazan, sometime the muslims do not always begin on the same day, unless they see the moon. that means that when we end, the muslims have one more to go. Therefore my eid was on monday and the rest of muslims eid was on tuesday...comprende?

On the day of eid, we go to mosque at 5.00 am. then we pray all morning. After that everyone wishes everyone. Then we have the most looked forward breakfast of the year. Roast chicken, strings, roti, pol sambol, bread, cream and this thing which is call 'maal pulaw' which is like sweet pancakes. Then we have a 'paya' curry. Which is a curry of all wird parts of goats...like the hooves, and bones etc. The menu has not changed for ever

I began going to the gym...for a very very short burst of pumping iron. The plan is to run afterwards, but cuz of the weather and work, i have still not been able to run yet.
I do know that i have put on wieght, but not that critically. But i want to be careful cuz i don't want to become fatter, cuz once you start i know you cant stop. And the way i eat, i am surprised i am not already 2 tons...!!!

I had an accident!!!! Damn. My first one ever. I was not concetrating, cuz it was bumper to bumper traffic and i was on auto pilot. The rain was really heavy and it was dark and stormy nite. All of a sudden a big pick up bore down on me and i heard a sickening thump. Its fender had knocked in my left front light. My car looks like a one eye jack. As if it has got a black eye and been in a bad fight. So i got down from the car. It was an old lawer uncle type who owned the jeep. He was cool about things. But the woman he wa with was trying to make a good fuss. I said i do not want to make this an issue and if are ok to sort the cost yourself, i will do the same and drove off. I frankly hate all the trouble of going to the cop shed and involving cops and causing an unncessarily traffic jam. I would rather pay money and sort it out than going to so much trouble. so today i called my car renter and he said he will send some one. I probably will have to pay a large amount of money now :( I hope not...

Sunday, October 22, 2006

Oct 14

Today i realised how much ppl can be difficult when they want to be. See the thing is a lot of my job is to get things done by other ppl. Especially the creative ppl. Sometimes they can put up such a show of attitude. Today they did it to me saying that why must i wait so long beofre briefing them, and that i have been keeping this for so long and giving them little time, and that they will not take responsibility for it and that nothing is ready for them to do work. Its as if we are asking them for a favour, when it their bloody JOB

All my life i have been used to abuse and being ragged and usually never let it bother me. But of late i feel that i cannot take this anymore. My blood begins to boil and i get all hot and start seeing red and really feel like letting it all out. My head starts to hurt and it feels really horible. And whats worse is that after wards i cannot concentrate on anything else. Even now i feel like breaking something. Had a meeting right after this incident, and felt i was not my self and did not do as good a presentation as i am capable of. i guess i need to find a way of chilling.

All my life i have been used to abuse and being ragged and usually never let it bother me. But of late i feel that i cannot take this anymore. My blood begins to boil and i get all hot and start seeing red and really feel like letting it all out. My head starts to hurt and it feels really horible. And whats worse is that after wards i cannot concentrate on anything else. Even now i feel like breaking something. Had a meeting right after this incident, and felt i was not my self and did not do as good a presentation as i am capable of. i guess i need to find a way of chilling.

Last weekend we spent the entire night in mosque...praying. Cuz of the entire month, that particular night was the most precious. But the coolest thing was that after such a long time i saw the sunrise. I thought it was just so amazing. Colombo looked so beautiful. And the sky was heavenly. I made up my mind to try and wake up to a few more sunrises in my life. Its just that i am so not a morning person and can never wake up early. My belief is that mornings are for sleeping.

I just heard that there are 2 rainbows in the sky near havelock road. It must be really amazing. I love looking for rainbows. Do you ever stare at the sky. Sometime i love to look up and make images with cloud shapes. I once saw the titanic, dinasours and even a submarine :)

oh by the way,i saw those two rainbows... matt there was a very defined one and right above it there ws a slighly lighter one...the darker rainbow is the only rainbow i've seen which actually had all seven colors!!! i took two photograghs of it to put in my project...i carry my camera around so that i can photogragh interesting stuff for my project..
i've seen double rainbows before bu thtese two were by far tha best...and the sky was so claer and had this gorgeous dull blue color and it was so beautiful...i was travelling in the bus at that time coz malla stayed after school and i picked him up after classes at the academy...there was this point when we crossed over this large field like area and we could actually see where the rainbow began and ended!!!!! it was beyond gorgoeus..

Conversations with a girl

Oct 19

"In every real man a child is hiddenthat wants to play" - Friedrich Nietzche

Isnt this a really cool quote... I think the writings of this guy arerealy amazing. You should check out his work on the net when you havetime.

I think that its such a shame that we become adults. Cuz then we loose everything thats amazing abou being a child. Curiosity, fun, beinghappy etc. You know what i mean...

CS Lewis said (and i love this quote as well) in his narniabooks... 'some day you will be old enuf to start reading fairy tales again"... so cool no?

Another frnd of mine wrote once..."'would their be any children ifthere were no fairytales?"

I hated becoming 20. i wanted to be 19 again. I was so scared that ihave not lived my teen years as fully as i wanted to. Not done things that i should do and scared that i wont get a chance to them again.Thats why i never say no to something new.Being a child again. Its amazing that we are searching for somethingthat we once had, when we should never have lost it in the first place. Don't know why i am becoming philosophical. Just ignore theseramblings.

Conversations with a girl

Oct 10

i hope you dont mind me asking what > ramazaan is all about..is it the birth of Allah?is that why your'll fast and> pray?

I'm no expert on the subject of Ramazan....

Fasting and ramazan

This is the most important month for Muslims. It is seen as an opportunity for Muslims. The opportunity is to be absolved of you sinsand gain reward for all the good that you do. Because in this monththe good you gain is multiplied. It's a gift and not a burden. Fastingis like a fire that consumes all your sins, and cleanses you.The prophet suffered in his spreading the word of Islam. Thissuffering caused God to reward us with Ramazan through a littlesacrifice on our part.

Also this prophets life span was short compared to the other prophetswho lived (before him) for over 100 years. Ramazan gives us anopportunity to gain good, faster, during our short life spans.Fasting is not only about rewards, it's about training. Training your senses� to see only pure and do only good. Even your thoughts,actions, all parts of your body are disciplined. It's not about lackof food. Its about fasting all your sences. Impure thoughts, seeingimpure things etc. Its not only fasting your stomach, but all your sences. It' about what you do in hunger. You do this so that you canfully concentrate on doing good and praying. So that you are notdistracted. It also makes us healthy and controls out diet.After all, you are given 11 months, and God asks for 1 in return. It is a very holy month also because this is the month the quran came down in.

Eid � ul - Fitr

The Eid is a celebration of the successful completion of the month ofRamazan and the fasting. This is a celebration or reward for all your hard work during Ramazan, and of a celebrating the absolution of allyour sins. This is the last day of ramazan, when we eat more yummyfood and wear new clothes and on which a holiday usually falls.

See, the thing is that the english language is not the best. It fully cannot ever translate the meaning of what the arabic word means.'Fasting' is a very simplistic word that does not capture everything isaid about it.

Do you know that because english is so basic, we are never supposed to read the quran in any language other than arabic. Becauseits meaning can never ever be accuratly enuf translated.

Conversations with a girl

Oct 11

Am i holy?

well.i do think you're kinda holy...but see...i dunno..it depends...but then just coz you seem to be living in the mosque and praying so much,it doesnt really make you holy does it? its what you feel that matters..

See the thing with me and religion is a long story.

I feel unreligious. But at the same time very god fearing. Its like the 2 should not be unconnected, but in my case, i feel they are.My problem is that everything seems to be a hypocrisy. Everyone theppl in it seem to be hypocritical. i am told I must behave in acertain way or perform certain acts if I want to be a 'good' bohra. But i dont do all these things. For ex, praying 5 times a day, orpraing the quran always or so many other small things that i amsupposed to do, but dont even know. To do everything I will have todevote my entire life and all my time fully to religion, So If I do certain things and don't do other things�what's the point?Either you do it all out or not at all right?. What the point of beingreligious to different degrees. for example, we are not supposed toeat some types of seafood, but i do. Does that mean i am a bad bhora?or unrelegious.

The thing is, being a bhora is a really good thing. And i think our releigion is fantastic. Very strict at times though. there is so much to learn. I only know a pin heads worth of stuff. Maybe that is one ofthe problems. I dont' know enough. Or i am not satisfied with what iknow. The thing is, that to learn more is very tough, cuz the info iswith learnered ppl and they impart it very infrequently.

All this is too complicated to think about. Writing it helps tho. I'msorry for telling you everything. I don't know if you can understandenuf of what i am telling you from what i have written. But, i told you anyway.

What do you think?

i just wanted to add on this subect, that the thing that sparked this off was everyone complainging about my hair. I wouldnt mind cutting it, but jsut the fact that i was told i must do that has made me feel rebellious. It also the fact that for the first time i am happy with the way my hair looks, and cutting it will mean thta it might never again look the way it is looking now.

why can't they let us be the way we want. i mean they say we are not supposed to play with stringed instruments. Only god knows why. Out went my chances of ever learning to play the paino. But i still went ahead and learned to play the guitar. YOur not supposed to eat sea createures with shells on them so out goes crabs and lobsters and prawns. See i'm sure there is a good reason for this, its just that i cant help feel that the are old wives tales. I dont understand why you have to do all this to be a good muslim.

i guess it must seem like hypocricy to you...some parts of doing what is told in your religion...but i believe that religion lies in your heart matt...not in whta everyone talks about...God doesnt love you and bless you for what you look like,but for how much you believe and trust in him...its farely hard to honour and love someone you havnt reaaly seen as such,but God knows how hard we try and will bless us according to how much we believe in him..thats why i agree with you about your hair...God knows none of us are perfect either...and i dint think He'd actually reprimand you for your haircut...afterall its not something that effects your faith in Him right?
matt,you also gotta remember that religion is a really ancient thing...so sometimes,some of the things that seem to be implied dont seem very practicle...its upto us to know where and when we gotta act right..that kinda thing...do you get it?
i dunno if i'm making much sense to you...this is what i've been taught to believe in...also what i really think is right....BUT most of all matt,just remember that religion really lies in your heart...not in your hair or your appearance..and i think God knows that too...
i hope i made at least a bit of sense to you matt...feel free to contradict anything you feel is not right about what i said...afterall,i'm still learning too..

Conversations with a girl

Oct 10

hi...

Oosps, i'v also guilty of not writing to you. Ben concentrating toomuch on work. I had a lazy weekend. Only exciting thing i did was gofor onstage. Did i tell you abt it? It was for the soloists....nattysang. She was good, but i thought generally she is much better, andthat did not come thru. I think she did not pick the best songs. andshe was nervous as hell. MOre nervous than shen she was on the stageof venice. BUt it was good fun, cuz i think the most no of ppl frmvenice were there, and again it waz like a renewion. SHe got a massivecheering squad. My fav singer tho was sheranga. Remember...i spoke abther once. She is just amazing... think.

Work and mosque, getting home and watching TV even if there is nothignon...its becoming a routine during the weekdays. I hate routines. Ieven try and take a different route to work everyday just to avoidgetting into a rut. But work and mosque is becoming a dangerous routine. Must find more things to do. I sometimes think that theanswer to taht is to not get lazy. I tend to get lazy and thencomplacent. Must keep pushing myself. I think the best work comes whenyou have a gun to your head. You know what i mean...Anyway. i amrambling,

I went to the dentist today. I really realy hate doctors...i meangoing to them. A hospital is a place i avoid at all costs. anyway,dentists freak me out too. The last time i went was abt 3 years ago,and i refused to go alone. This time, i forced myself to go and amquite proud to say that i was very brave. I did not scream even once:) It was actaully interesting. cuz through a couple of mirrors, icould actually see where the problem was and saw my cavity. He drilleda bit into the cavity, which didnt hurt like i thought it would Ithink even the doc was surprised, cuz he kept asking if it hurt. thenhe cleaned it out and put in a temp filling. Then i asked him to clean my teeth. He put a tiny tiny bit of some toothpaste and got this tinypolishing thing out and started polishing my teeth. I have to go againto get the lower jaw done and in weeks to get a permanent filling.But it was a fun expereiecne actaully. At least, becaue it didnt pain.

I have to get ready for mosque again. tonight, its a long prayer cuzits a big nite. Its leading up to the biggest nite of the month whichis on sat nite. We have to be up the ENTIRE night praying. We onlyfininsh at about 4 am after which we eat and pray again and go home.

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Oct 3

When i get anngry 1 of 2 things happen.....either i blow up or i clamp up. Usually do the later. Bottle everything inside and keep it until it festers. sometimes i dont let it out and thats bad. I'm not very good with opening myself out, but have only recently realised how important that is. I am unlucky cuz i do not have like a best friend. YOu know, someone who can be my bestest buddy ever. So many ppl have come and gone n my life.

Last nite...my wkend adventures continued. We made another spur of the moment decision to go out after mosque. This time it was some of my bhora frnds. Our first stop was Apollo hospitals. Such a nice place to just chill and do nothing. Staring at all the sick ppl coming in and out. Smelling the aroma of hospital fragrances. Imagining the screams of ppl in pain. Such a nice place to hang out.....YUCK. I hate hospitals. Thoought that apollo wz nice when it first launched. But as we went to vist a frnd of a frnd yesterday, it reminded me of all the reasons why i hate hospitals. He was put in this tiny claustaphobic room with things running out of him. HE had a bad case of incurable asthma. His lung is working only at 27 % capacity. That sounds really scary.

Then we went to this road called barber strt. I had a culinary experience i did not think that Sri Lanka could offer. This road is in pettah. Now youd think that colombo wld be dead at abt 11 or 12. But this road and parts of pettah we drove thru was happenig. It was full of life and ppl and food!!! It was thrilling remined me all over again of india. Of course this was for ramazan. Ppl were chatting, walking about, playing cards, eating and this would go on till 4 am when they eat and go to sleep again. The restaurants to go to is this really cool on on barber strt, Elite, Iqbal. They make pillaows look like a rat infested dump. The food is superb. Get this....i had the most amzing mango lassi ever. (ate at the indian restaurant part of Elite) Then had hot hot garlic narn and mutton masala. But the best revalation was this dish called chicken 65. Amazing name no? Basically batter fried bite sized chicken on a bone. Yum. Then, what was even better thatn dat was this dish called chicken lollipops. Again chicken on a bone, lollipop sized in a sweet and savoury sauce. it was so sos os sos so tasty. I could go on...

Today was another boring day at work. But i was supposed to have this big presentation to Erricsson with boss. But in the 11th hour they cancelled it and did it so offhandly. Had to put in a lot of effort in vain.


I don't have a huge sweet tooth, but have occasional cravings fro something sweet and then a tiny nibble of chocalte is enuf. But sometimes i like to melt chocolate on my fingers and lick it all up.

On girls, i always seem to first look at their shoes. For some weird reason. I think it tells a lot abt the person. I have a thing for footware. then i gues i notice the face and speciifcally eyes. BUt after that it becomes hazy. cuz its hard to notice girls piece by piece. You notice the whole package togehter. The way she walks, the way she speaks and dresses. Her smile, hair...everything. i think you were wearing your matted slippers (or barefoot) and had a twinkle in your eye when i first saw u at ranils studio.

Today was a very good day for me. I just finished a meeting with boss. He was discussing my evaluation or performance. 8 ppl have done an evaluation of me and he had the summery, where they write about me, specifically the good, bad and areas for improvement. I had no problems apart from the fact that i am a bit of a loner. I consider my self an introvert and am not necessarily the best mixer. if i had a choice, i wld avoid crowds. This was seen as a bit of a bad trait, but something where i can always improve on. Overall it was good. I like that boss knows that i do well, cuz i know that i do well. I also like that everyday in the morning as i get up, i look forward to going to work. Cuz if ever a time comes when i feel like i don't want to, then i should quit. The only regret i have is that i have not gone abraod to study...but thats a long story i dont want to cry to you about.

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Sept 28

I began reading a terry pratchett of my own last nite. its called the truth. Very funny. by the way, did you check out the website i told you about on terry pratchett. Pls do. i'm telling you that you must. it will make the stroy you read so much more interesting.
I think i have a frnd who goes to that place on queens rd. It will be close to my office :)
I am one person for some weird reason who loves tests, studying and exams. I love the rush and the feeloing you get after you finish them. Where everyone else is scared, i enjoy it. So weird i am...

I just realised that next weekedn is a long one. I have to do something that weekend. I must go out of town. I wouldnt be me if i didnt make use of the holiday :)

Sometimes work is bloddy curse, especially when you have to depend one someone else. I always believe in the fact that if you want something done, you have to do it yourself. Its bad cuz i sometimes get all the shit [piled up on me. And its worse when you have someone working under you cuz its hard to let go of work. But what choice do you have when you cannot depend on half the ppl here. i'm also a little pissed when no one helps..., i have to go on a market visit on Saturday. Except fro 2 ppl, noone is willing to come and help me...so i might not do it. Which is bad cuz then only this who have not helped me will loose out. i am not doing this for myself. Anyway. That is a bit of what is irking me today and i hope you don't mind if i talk to you abt it.

So what gets you angry? And when you get angry, what happens, what do you do and how do you cool down?

what do i do when i get mad??i blow up BIG TIME!!! my cheeks start burning up and there's this big lump in my throat and i wanna totally cry!!! i normally do...if i get really really bugged..thats the bad part...if i'm in an argument its kinda hard to prove my point if i'm very bugged and i'm crying...i know it sounds silly...
i calm down afert i throw a fit by being alone or talking to a friend where i can cry my heart out and get it over with..if its at home i try my best not to blow up by biting on my tongue real hard so that i wont say anything unneccessary..
if i blow uo and hurt someone,i feel extremely guilty the next moment so i apologize right away..it says in the bible never to let the sun go down without mending a quarrel..and thats what i try to do..


Yesterday i went to mosque and as i said, after mosque sat down for dinner...Dinner is in this huge hall, where abt 500 ppl sit down on the ground in a circle like i explained to you and eat. We sit in the direct line of sight with the high priest. Of all things, he called me up today. I hate when he does this. Imagine if lets say the president of the country calls u up while you are having dinner. Or imagine if you were in the middle ages and the king calls you up. Everyone turns their attension to you. And i am a bit of a notorious case in mosque as well. I do not like to conform. I knew what he was going to tell me. He whispers to my ear that it would look very nice if i cut my hair....the thing is that i was always dreading someone telling me. And if it was anyone else, i would have told that person to mind his own business. But the amazing thing about the priest is that he speaks it so well. Its as if even if he tells you the worse thing in the world, you want to listen to him, because his tone, manner and style is so sweet. And you know that he is telling you from the bottom of his heart. I guess the word is diplomatically. I don't know if i am conyeing to you what it felt like to me well enough. ANyway my issue is that i do not want to cut my hair. Cutting my hair is such a traumatic experience for me (except for the fact that i get a free 15 min vigourous amazing massage for the 100/- i pay). And i had trimmed it last week. I like the way my hair looks right now. So i am thinking of trying to avoid him as much as possible, as hard as i know that will be. Anyway, that is last nights story.

Gotta break fast and leave now. TC and b good

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Sept 26

kandy was so much fun!!! we left home at 5.15 in the morning..my mom's friend's son was a royalist so he came woth us to kandy and got off at the train station where he was meeting his friends..we reached kandy at about 10.30...my dad's friends had come the previous day so they were just having breakfast when we reached the guest house...normally we stay at a hotel like Mahaweli Reach or something but this time everything was full up...we had breakfast at jinadasa in warakapola...it is the ultimate place to stop over during a trip...you've been there right?we had hoppers and halepa..i love halepa!!!
after everyone had breakfast we went to the trinity college farm...it was awesome...my dad can get us into anything that's connected with trinity coz he's an old boy and very prominent in the OBA..normally we go to trinity and my dad takes us on a tour around the whole school..it's a very beatiful school but too many steps to climb!!! there's a gorgeous view from every point in the school...and the chapel is to die for!!!!
anyway the farm was quite cooll..exceptthe stench in the piggery nearly made us all pass out!!! and the pigs were SO FAT!!!! and very pink.. matt the uncle in charge of hte farm let me hold a baby guinea pig and a baby rabbit!!! i took pictures,they're so cute!!! there were lots of animals..sheep,goats.cows,ducks,chickens...we went all around the farm..then this uncle's bungalow is at the very edge of the bangalow overlooking the river...when its the rainy season,the river fills up right upto his house!!!
anyways...after that,we went back and had lunch...thel it was time to go for the match..i painted the trinity colours on everybody's faces,even our moms and dads!!!! then we got into the bus and iput my trinity flag out...we had two flags on each side of the bus!!! it was so much fun...i cheered so much during the match i lost my voice!!!
my wrists were killing me the next day after i had waved the flag around during the entire match!!! we had seats in the grand stand downstairs,right at the back...so all the kids stood on their chairs...we had an awesome view from there!!!
after the match we went back for dinner...we ahd to leave that night coz malla had an exam in school the next morning...it was 2 in the mornong when we got home!!! but nevertherless we had to wake up early and take malla to school...



Kandy sounded super duper. Thanks for the detailed update. Have you been to ambewella farms. The animals there are beyond super. So cute. The goats and the cows. They have rabbits as well. Did not know that trinity had a farm. It must have been cool. I love the sound of it.

I had a busy weekedn too. Helping out for the st.benedicts was fun. On Fri micky didnt come so all that he thought me on thursday i put into practise. Lighting was so much fun to do. You feel like god sitting up there above everyone else. And if you feel like it, you can cut all the lights and leave everyone helpless in darkness :))) Went home late on fri. Sat was the first show. this time i was backstage. It was good too be in control. The kids called me mat aiya. That felt so funny i almost laughed. I was strict with them. Tried to be like siraj and got them to run around anytime i wanted them to. They were so clueless it wasnt funny. Don't know hoe, but somehow the show went off well. The songs they sang were bomb. They even did seasons of love (from rent...the song i played for you on my comp) Some of those guys had amazing amazing amazing voices. Even the chooti batta kids were really good.

after the show went for onstage. A lot of our boys were there playing. Also a lot of our crowd was there as well. Do you want to go this saturday. Chutiya is playing and i can bring or drop you if you need? Anywy the bands were ok. BUt it was fun hanging out. After went to pillaows for dinner. There were a record number of 11 ppl in my car. Wow. We all spent a lot of time there. Kevin was supurb. Keeping us entertained all thru the nite. It was really nice to hang out with everyone.

Then on sunday after the show, micheal, dini, me and dinesh went out for dinner. we treated ourselves to this korean restaurant on havlock road. HTe food was just beyond amazing. And what was more special is that each table has at the centre a gas cooker....imagine that. They cook your food right in front of. The idea is thta you cook it yourself and add whatever you want to to it. The sauces were out of this world. We had sea food soup and barbecued meats. The experiecen was amazing. It was during dinner that we heard about ruins dads death. Chutiya was playing at tantra. Both of them didnt seem to concerned. Went to their place at about 12 and hung out their and chatted. Was really late by the time i dropped everyone and went to sleep.
Oh on sunday i also went to watch superman. I new it would be cold so i took a blanket type huge shawl with me :) It ws really cosy under that. And before you laugh about it, it was a good thing i took it cuz it there i think i felt sick and was sneezing through out the film. I'm not saying its a bad film, but it did not live up to superman expectaitions. Had its fun moments

From sat onwards i had begun fasting. Staying hungry is not really an issue for me. The real issue is waking up at 4 in the morning. Do you know why we fast. By abstaying from distractions such as food and other things, we free up our time and mind for prayer. So that we gain the maximum good from this month which is the holiest of all. Sometimes i feel it is pointless fasting, cuz i cannot do all the holy things that i need to do and so feel that fasting has become a farce. But i must try. Then we break fast after prayers, usually at mosque. After prayers, he head priest talks to us. He teaches us (like a sermon), but its all interesting stuff. there is a lot of stress yesterday on gossiping. Gossiing is supposed to be really bad and a big sin. He said that it is so bad that it is akin to eating your own brothers flesh... after prayers and sermon (sermon is the wrong word for it, but you know what i mean right), we have dinner. It is always an amzing dinner. Last nite was Jalebi (sweet oily thing), chicken in yum gravy, soup and biriyani. This goes on the entire month of ramazn for us.

I finished narnaia last nite. Read the entire last book in a couple of hours steaight. Very sad now cuz the book is over. It was really beautiful. I need to start again on some of my old books. Maybe will read hitchikers guide. Have you read them? They are my fav after pratchett. Even funnier. Just amazing.

My mum is ok. She is slowly going back to hr routine of housework and prayers. She is amzinlgy picky over her house. Everything has to be spotless and in its place. Sometimes it becomes just a little too much for me to handle. but a hell of a lot of life has comeback home. Its gr8 to have her back

Its time i went to mosque too. Talk to you later.

Conversations with a girl

Sept 21

Meybe when i come over for the flute lesson, i can actually do it and show you. I love to cook you know. The favourite place in any house for me is the kitchen. I'm a great experimentor with food. Love it. eVEry time someone calls me for lunch, i end up cooking it myself :) I have bad news. I wont be coming for bradby. Damn. I was looking forward to it as well. Cuz dininda has got caught up in work, he cant make it and therefore neither can i cuz i was going for it. Maybe next year then. So sad yar. I would have supported trinity. Cuz i like kandy and i like the look of the school. I dont know too much about the school, tho bu i am sure it must be cool. I have to run to the wendt. I'll tell you about it tomorrow. My mum is coming in the afternoon tomorrow. Yayayayayayayayayayaya. But i think my bro will go to pick her and i will see her only in the night.

Bye

Conversations with a girl

Sept 20

CAme back from a mind numbing meeting where the CEO of mobitel goes on and on and on. Its torute. Where he can finish in 1 hour, he makes it 2. Seriously men, metgs are the most un productive things in the world.

Tonight is the farewell of michael at office. Cuz he is leaving us and joining another company. I have to give a speecha nd a few of us have to do something to him. I think its silly that we have to do something to put him on the spot. If anyone did thta to me, i wld hate it. But anyway we are going to strip him and dress him up as a girl. come to think about it, he mite actually like it. ha ha ha. I also have to give a speech. But i will really really miss him. (in case yo didnt realise it, this is gratiano)

I was to go with dininda to the bradby. But he has still not firmed up the plans. Now i am worried that it won't happen. Must give him a call tomorrw. I would like to go, just to see it at least once. I thought you would go running up on friday....

My mum is coming friday afternoon. I'll give the car to my bro and try an borrow his bike. Ha ha. That would be cool cuz he has a bike that is a fake harley. One of those cool big bikes. Can't wait. Esp to see what my sis has sent for me. I told her to bring lots of food. I love indian food.

Speaking of food. Last nite's food was yum. Simple and amazing. i'' try and describe it to you but will bet that you would never have tasted some of it. First was custard with jelly and ice cream. Then we had something called ravo. This is pronounced like bravo without the b. It is basically "rulan" cooked with jaggery. I like to mix sweet and savoury. So i eat it with a curry. It is amazing. love it. Then we had "dhall, chaval, paleedu" Basmati rice with parippu and chicken masala. The dhal and chicken (dry, but spiced up) is in the bottom layer, and the top layer is plain rice. Then we have a curry called paleedu. It is basically a snake gourd (i think) curry. Finally we had a side dish of "channa Batetha'. It is basically boiled gram with potatoes whiched are spiced up with a bit of tamarind juice concentrate for flavour. The best thing about the food was that my bro did 'dhungar' for it. That means that say for example the rice is put in a big metal container. We make a small hollow in the middle and lower into it a small metal cup that contains a couple of live coals which are smoking. Once that is in place, we pour a bit of ghee over the hot coals so that you get a hell of a lot of smoke. AS this happens, we cover up the container and put a weight on it so that no smoke leaves. Leave that cover for about 10 minutes or less. Once its done the flavour of the smoke gets into the food and the taste becomes divine. It is really amazing flavour.
Do you get what i'm saying?

ME

Conversations with a girl

I got hold of the R&J Dvd last nite and was watching bits and pieces of it. It is amazing. And its even cooler cus now i know more than half the people who acted in it. When i watched it, i did not. Also they look so young. Chamat for ex is very thin, dininda looks like a kid. Sashane looks the same tho.
I made the most amazing mashed potato's last nite for dinner. There wasnt any food at home and i was tired of doig something more extravegent than that.
For lunch i usually hav a bath packet from a nearby petti kade. She cooks amzing rice and curry in the morning in her little bath kade so its fresh and puts a little extra for us when i want. BUt the prob i have with eating rice and curry everyday is that i get very sleepy.
having a dinner at my bro's house. Going with my dad. I think its my nieces bday so they have called us, even tho nafisa is not in the country. Dont really wanna go cuz i dont talk much to them, but the food will be good. hows ur soul mate. is he relieved that the play is over and he will have more time with you now?

Until later

Me


chamath,thin?????ha ha
i can imagine what sash must'vr looked like though...by the way,now that venice is over are you gonna grow your beard again??and look 'divine'...remember when i said that ????gosh,you must've thought i was retarded no??!!!

Conversations with a girl

Sept 18 - Day 1 after venice

HI sunshine.... :)

I wanted to mail u when i had a clear head (from the usual monday morning work) and a full stomach. Just went to green cabin for an awesome lunch.
Another movie i recommend apart from RENT is Amelie. It is a french film that is sooo sweet. U will just begin to appreciate life so much. It will remind you abt everything good in the world and you will feel like a kid again. It is just so amazing. Weirdly it was written and directed by the same guy who did ALIEN, but it is worlds apart.
One more film u shd see is "life is beautiful" if you have already not. These are some of my fav films in the whole world.

I just got the best news in a while. My mum is coming back on Friday after about 2 months. I am so happy...yay. I do not have the kind of relationship that you have with your parents, but i really missed her even tho we disagree on so many things and always argue. Whats worse was that she wasnt there to see me perform. I would have got her to see me everyday and no that she would have loved it. Cuz she was always interested in the 'arts' as in music, dance etc. But when she was small her grandparents and uncles neer let her do it saying it was not for girls. (she went to bishops by the way). shit i want to curl up and wallow now :(((( Sorry. i'm a big baby. Sorry. I guess its all beginning to sink in. Yesterday and last day and all.


I am quite sleepy cuz on the way to drop some guys, chootiya, kevin, poornima, nayanthi, dinesh etc, we stopped by at the beach, cuz we did not want the day (nite) to end. The beach in the nite is my new favourite palce. I told you that rite. Its amazing just lying in the sand and staring at the stars. We frightened some couple who were necking in the car parked by the beach. That was funny :) Reached home at 4. Then for one hour, i was struggling with those damn flowers.

First of all i had to find a vase. I dont think we have ever brought flowers to our home, so we dont have vases. Not only was it 4 am, and i was tired, there was not one to ask where anything was. So i had to improvise. I found an emty 4 litre ice cream container that ended up being just perfect, tho not easthically perfect. Then i had the worst time getting the wrapping out. There was so much wire and kambi and i could not find the pliers. So i was using my fingers and a blunt sissor to cut it open. its still hurting! then i had to arrange it and that was a curse, cuz some of the stems were short, some were drooping. So i got rid of the short stuff and had to do a bit of arranging. When i got up in the mornig, tho, i must say it looked really nice Brought so much colour to the home. hmmmm...

BUt i actually was thinking, that the problem with flowers, and probably why i do not think giving them is a good idea is that they die. So isnt the whole point of it lost. I think it would be so much better if the flowers that you get, you could plant. Cuz that way not only do u do the envirnment a favour. U make your garden prettier and the gift lasts flor muc longer. I think giving a plant or a tree as a gift instead of flowers is a better idea than giving flowers...what do you think.


TC

PS, I got the R&J dvd. looking forward to seeing that!

Conversations with a girl

Sept 14

Hi,

I need a favour. Can you teach me how to play the flute. I'll bring one tomorrow. Pls....
Just the basics. I have been searching for someone to teach me far and wide and for so long i have almost given up.
It is one of my favourite instruments also, so its only natural that i learn how to play it.

Excellent,.... thanks

Conversations with a girl

Sept 13

I wz really bored last nite cuz there was no performance. Can i tell you a secret. I have absolutly no idea how i will manage without the play and i am a little scared. Do you know what i mean. Cuz suddenly i will have so much free time, that i am afraid i will be bored silly. And what is worse is that i will miss everyone i used to see practically daily for so many months. And then i will loose touch with so many ppl and will next meet them only in like 50 years time and then we will laugh and think about the great times we had on stage. Its quite scary and i cannot really describe it by writing about it. Its just a feeling

matt i know what you feel like when it comes to venice...i've been thinking about it for quite some time too...i'm definitely gonna miss everyone just like you will...its almost been a year ever since i joined and now i'm suddenly gonna lose out on it...the last performance is gonna be so hard...knowing that we wont get to do it again...and knowing that i'm not gonna be meeting all my new friends for a looooong time..ouch,i feel like crying right now!!!
but then again matt,things come and go in life and its our job not to get stagnated in one place but to move on...if we just hang on to every passing thing in our lives we might miss out on some of the best things around us..its so hard i know,but what to do..that's life...




I just had a very good hour. I had finished a presentation i have been working on for the last week and reviewing it with my boss. I should have finished it much earlier, but was being lazy. So i was really afraid he was going to scold me fo doing a bad job. But he didnt. He loved it. And thats great, cuz i feel as a whole load of pressure is off me. So i have a reason to celebrate and spend some time doing something more interesting than worrying.

U know a quote that comes to mind everytime something i love comes to an end...."don't cry because its over, smile because it happened" Venice was an amazing experience and its memories will live for ever with me. What is more heartening is that along with the memories, i have picked up some gr8 friends :)

Ice Age 1 & Ice Age 2 are both fabulous. You have to watch it & stitch as well. They are super cool and really funny...ooh...ooh, my fav 2 movies have to be Finding Nemo & Monstors Inc. I just love them. I know what u mean abt the crying. Dont worry about it. everyone does it sometimes. even the most grease stained, hard haerted, tattooed, motor bike riding and chain wearing, rock music loving person would melt when they see stuff like this. (i'm sure they will even if they dont admit it)

I was reading the Narnia books just before performance. I am looking forward to finishing them after actually. I love those books. I read them when i waz a kid and ever since them, it has been one of my dreams to own all 7. Only a month ago i bought it and now i feel as if an impossible childhood dream has come true :)

Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Some true insights to life

What better shelter from the storms and trials of daily life than friendship and to know that there is someone out there you can fall back on.
Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there...to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but when you lock eyes with them, you know that every moment they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck.

Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless-the people you meet affect your life.

The successes and downfalls that you experience can create who you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.

Saturday, February 04, 2006

Me...an outside view

This was my dear frnd shy's inspiring and thruthful comment on my last blog entry. I thought that it was worth puttng up as a post to inspire me when i come across this at some later date....

I once read somewhere, or maybe i heard someone famous say this "the worldis a giant stage, and we are all actors, acting out our lives". So yeah, anyone can act, what makes some people better at it than others is becausethey use their creative side of the brain.

Confidence is not something other people could give you. People are selfish these days (we have had countless arguments on that one) they don't want to instill confidence in other people when they themselves lack it. That's the reason why you should build it up yourself and try to think of yourself as the greatest person in the whole world, this should be confused with ego.That's probably why i can take a lot of bugging, no matter what anybody says, it can't hurt my confidence.

Something else, everybody in this world is talented. You just got to findout where you talent lies. Dabbling in a lot of things is probably why you think you don't have talent, cos you've done so many things and yet you cant find what your good at. Pursue one/ two things for an extended period oftime, learn to enjoy it and then see the difference.

Let me be a little morehelpful on that one... you can't sing - because you haven't trained your voice. Writing- your good at it. Playing the guitar- i haven't heard you play it, so i don't know. Acting- your giving it a go, lets see. Photography- from what i've learnt from Jer about how to judge a good picture, i think you have potential. Athletics - i think you have a lot of potential there, you could have become a great sportsman, you have the determination, the training was what you lacked. If you pursued that, you probably might have ended up in a ivy league uni. These are just a fewexamples (you can use this to build up your confidence) and im no expert on these subjects.

You haven't learnt everything you know, you possible can't, if you did, then you must be god.

Nervousness is good. If you think you'll stick out like a sore thumb, always shout out a warning to the others saying "i haven't done this before, soplease correct me if im doing something wrong". People would like you foryour honesty.

Sunday, January 08, 2006

Stage fright and magic

The Merchant of Venice

One of the things I admire about myself is that I like to dabble in a number of things that come my way. But what I don’t like about myself is that in a few instances I do not follow through with it. For instance, I began to learn origami, I began to play in a band (I did this for a couple of years), I began to write poetry, I began travelling, I began to play the flute, I began to enjoy being involved in theatre, began swimming, photography etc. etc.

Sometimes I end up feeling like it’s enough to have done it. Like I am collecting these experiences like people collect stamps on their passports. Other times I feel like I wish I had persevered in it a bit more. I wish I perfected one thing all the way.
Things might have been a bit easier if I had found a partner in many instances. Some one who could push me as much I as I push him. But this is just an excuse.

Theatre has fascinated me from the moment I was dragged to watch the local production of Lion King. I have tried my hand at acting and backstage. They have all been amazing experiences. I have so enjoying being with the cast and crew and being a part of a production that I have told myself that I will get involved at every opportunity that presents it self.

An opportunity did present it self on Friday when sunshine asked me if I wanted to take part in the merchant and come for a rehearsal on Sunday. Now that an opportunity did come my way I was not sure that I wanted it :(

I am quite scared and nervous at the prospect of making a fool in front of a number of people. Its not that I have stage fear, it’s more a fear of being embarrassed. Fear of my own lack of ability that I think I have. Lack of confidence must be the root cause of all this. I have never been given much encouragement at anything I do. It’s always been done out of my sheer will power. No one has told me that I have done a great job. No one has been a mentor for me. I have learned to be my own mentor. Also, most of the things I have done have not required me to be at par with people of real talent. I have never been born with talent. I don’t think I have any. I have learnt everything that I know. So when I am placed in a group of really talented people, I fear that I will stick out like a sore thumb.

I’m very grateful that sunshine was there and even more grateful that she gave me the opportunity. So I decided to make the most if it. The words of Michael rang in my ear. Any one can act.

So act I did. I acted as if I knew what I was doing. I acted as if I was not really nervous. And as usual, being in the company of such great people, I was not nervous.

In fact the only thing that made me nervous was the fact that I was given lines to perform. Was the director - Feroze (of stage light and magic) mad?

He asked me to read a passage from the script. He said that it wasn’t too bad. Then he gave me a part to act out in a scene. I was the dude (‘B’ something) who needed the money from Shylock. Holy hell! It was a lead part I was given. I have never said more than a word on stage. And here I have lines to read. Shakespears lines. Lines that require me to read them at least a dozen times before I even understand them. I have to by-heart lines. I have to sing a solo. Feroze must be mad. I must be mad. I felt like telling him “dude, I have never acted in my life. I don’t know what has come over you to put me in a major role. It’s not funny” I came here with the expectation that I would be backstage and out of sight. But this is crazy. I’m sure he is only trying me out though, until a better actor comes along.

I now have to go for rehearsals Wednesday nigh to Feroze’s house! He is mad! This also means a major commitment from me. If the play is gonna be in September, that means that till then, I will have to devote myself to the play. My weekends would be screwed. I might not get the chance to begin my studies. I would love to do a small role though. It would be such magic.

Tuesday, January 03, 2006

Story telling

On a different topic...this is the very first article that i have written. I'm kinda proud of it. I really relate to the topic and i'm glad i gave myself a chance to explore it. My only problem is that i think that some of the words are not mine entirely. They have been borrowed, as have the examples (not all though). I need a bit more experience, before i write something that i am really proud about i guess...

Any comments on the article and topic are welcome...

Looking at a glass bottle won’t really inspire you to imagine anything extraordinary about it. Now imagine how you would look at it if you knew that this bottle was discovered in the 2000 year old ruins of Pompeii.

This is the power of a story. The ability to make the mundane and ordinary in our lives ‘extra’ ordinary. Imagine this same power if unleashed in our brand building efforts.

A story cannot be confined to the narratives or drama’s that we have been hearing since our childhood. Stories are fundamental to our day to day social conversations; think how we delight in a yarn well spun, a joke or a snippet of gossip.

Stories manifest themselves in every facet of our lives, from the interactive Video Games, Reality TV shows to compelling TV commercials. In fact stories form the fabric of our very existence. “The universe is made of stories, not atoms" said poet Murial Rukeyser, referring to the power of the narrative. Their power lies in the fact that it pulls us into a world in which we might place ourselves, both literally and imaginatively. A world where we can be anyone we want to be. A world in which we write our own script. So our reality or life really exists in the ‘story space’ that we create for ourselves. Our childhood was filled with games where we pretend to be Superman or Indiana Jones. Even though the characters have changed, we are still pretending to play a role in our story.

Stories become a parody of life, which we use to share our experiences, mistakes &learning’s to a wider audience without fear. Universal themes such as the nature of strength and weakness, of success and failure and ultimately the meaning we place on life and death can be safely broached, and the range of emotions from laughter, through sadness and fear safely experienced.

The American Way of Life is a powerful story, which includes everything from principles like freedom and the pursuit of happiness, to stories of cowboys and rags-to-riches heroes, to metaphors like the melting pot and the safety net, to images like the Statue of Liberty and the flag. It is communicated by movies, men in business suits, advertisements, college catalogues, and mall displays -- among many, many other things. It takes immense effort to resist or change it. Anyone or anything which doesn't live within this ocean of a story and move with its currents doesn't seem quite American.

The marketing implication

Thinking of brands as a story moves us beyond using mere adjectives to define them. We could use rich words such as iconoclastic, crusading, rebellious and charismatic. However I could say ‘Robin Hood’ and we would immediately picture the archetypal hero, attaching those same values of champion for the underdog, to the brand. Stories manage to capture our inner most emotions cutting across all boundaries such as age, gender country reflecting our inner most tensions, anxieties, excitement and joy as Harry Potter does for example.

Rolph Jensen, the man who predicted the evolution of the current information society to the ‘dream society’ illustrates the power of a story through the example of a wrist watch. “What is the difference between a cheap watch and highly priced one? Both tell the correct time. The answer is that a watch is no longer a watch; it also bespeaks a lifestyle. We are not paying for a devise to tell us the time, but we are paying for the story – the story about who we are, how we tell this to ourselves and to the other people around us”. This is borne out in Seiko's recent advertising campaign with the endline 'It's your watch that says most about who you are'.
Suddenly advertising seems to be less about selling and more about vivid story telling. Our biggest challenge then would seem to be finding a way to make our product play a part in the story space of our consumers.

With the bombardment of so many messages, choices and products, consumers are looking for something fresh. They now want brand stories that allow them freedom to imagine and interact, that 'connect' with them socially as well as emotionally.

The story gives a company a competitive edge. Allowing the differentiation of 2 companies in the same category to appear as The Masculine man (Thumb Up) and the Regular Guy (Coke). We buy into the story of the brand and the opportunity to become part of that story. So, we buy Nike sports shoes, but not just because they offer a performance benefit. We are also buying a story rooted in the history of sporting endeavour, and a chance to join the gods of sporting prowess. Similarly, Harley–Davidson doesn't just sell motorbikes, but the story of you as a Hell's Angel on the wide, open roads of America … even if you live somewhere completely different.
Ex: Selfridge’s Executive Director, V. Radice described his store as a 'theatre' to entertain his customers. He has invited famous celebrities and performing artists to that end. His store is described as a place where visitors can acquire a rich emotional experience, and where the product takes on its 'true' role as something that is purchased because it is the manifestation of an emotion.

So we need to be working hard to tap into the collective imagination, to sell not merely products, but ideas, aspirations and experiences that allow our 'creative collaborators' (formerly 'consumers') to express their individuality, and to evolve, create and refine dreams they feel to be their own.

We are moving towards a new era where it won't be the latest technology or newest product, but the story behind the product that will provide the competitive edge. Consumers will pay for the story that sparks the imagination, that reflects how they see themselves and how they want others to see them; and that provides emotional wealth when material wealth is increasingly commonplace. What this means is that not only do we have to continue to create ideas that inspire enduring belief, we have create vivid stories around them to help reach the hearts of our consumers.

Advertising Cases for further reference

MINI
The Mini is a case in point for a promotion based on the power of a story. It’s all about the story around the Mini Adventure. Where the car is portrayed as the symbol of independence and individuality.
The campaign talks to the child in the adult, and invites one to be included in a fun and adventurous world, where online and telephone encounters feel more like 'play' than being sold to. A pre-delivery 3D postcard lets you know that your car is just being polished and will be with you on a certain date, whereon you open the owners manual (more like a photo album of funky pictures of the Mini in various locations and poses) and actually find yourself reading it and smiling:
'So you did it. You went for it, tickled your fancy, took the plunge… Yes, you and your new mini are together at last. And now that you are together, it's time for the real fun to begin …You and your MINI.
Live happily ever after. The End.


Guinness
The Guinness advertising evokes an epic atmosphere to arouse our imagination and bombard us with symbolic tidal waves, mythical horses or raw and primal archetypes of masculinity. Their 'story' is not in any sense predictable because it is not speaking to the conscious mind. One is not 'told' what to think, or feel or how to respond, but rather experiences a connection and responds automatically.
The storyteller allows us to explore 'what is' or what 'might be' in the safe but fertile realms of our own imagination.


References:
Once upon a time, there was a brand: Lucia Rolli and Fiona Jack
You can keep your dream. I want to live in the real world: Market Research Society Conference 2005

A Hitch Hikers Guide to travelling in India – the land of my forefathers.

India. The worlds largest democracy, the 6th largest country in the world AND one of the most ancient and living civilizations (at least 10,000 years old!) The most fascinating and inspiring country I will ever have the opportunity to visit. I began with some misgivings, having heard numerous stories of poverty, overcrowding, slums, traffic, stink, pollution, noise and much worse. It certainly was all of this and more. Hell, the first view of the country as you fly into Mumbai is a sea of slums just behind the airport.

BUT there was so much more. Exciting enough to drown out or overpower the bad. For instance, the stink couldn’t hide the of the wonderful aroma food. Along with the overcrowding came the amazing cultural and people diversity. Along with the poverty came the will, determination and ambition of these folk to succeed.

What follows are some insights into this amazing country.
# 1: India cannot be seen. It has to be experienced. You have to immerse yourself in the land, culture, traditions, food and people. I was on a vegetarian diet for about 20 days, drinking masala chai and camel milk, travelling by camel, horse and bicycle carriage, buses & trains (that seemed to be right out of the Fevicol ad) sleeping in dorms and even out in the open and more.

# 2: Do not underestimate the Indians. This is a country that has the second largest working population in the world. There are 1000’s of people dying for each others job. They are all at the very top of their ball game. Even though their looks may deceive you, as it did me.

# 3: Everything is big. Travelling from, say Jaipur to Agra may be only 221 km - 4.5 hours away, but this is a couple of km short of the full breadth of Sri Lanka.

It is no easy task to explore India. It has a population 54 times that of SL, with an area so large that 50 SL’s can fit in and with 14 official languages and about 15,000 more. There is so much to see and experience that one lifetime (or 2 months) is certainly not enough.

This is something that i wrote for my office newsletter

If anyone is going to India...pls bring me one of the below...i'll pay

Wish list from India
Osho Slippers
Jeera Masala
Khadi shirts
Icchar
Casual kurta’s
Books (MAD Comics among others)
Belts (leather or cloth)
Shawl
Local Music

Food i'm gonna try and make

Masala tea
Poah (squashed boiled rice mixed with a bit of sugar, chilli, onions and garnished with Sev.)
Bhatti and Churma (same atta used for making Bajra Rotti)
Sweet Potatoes left in the hot ashes of camp fire.
Pakora (Channa atta, chillie, haldi, spice powder, onions and green chillies that are all mixed into a paste and then fried)
Corn in Masala
Badaam milk
Chillie paste with garlic, onion and tomatoes
Rotti – the normal kind as well as the Bajra kind
Watermelon seed bites
Tandoori paneer Masala (I loved the paneer in India)
Dhungar the food
Puri with food instead of rotti
Ice gola made with a wood shaver
Gring jeeru for Masala soda
Curry powders

Have i changed?

I have become pushier. If I want something, I will ask people for it. I will less and less wait for things to happen and instead make them happen.

Every problem has a way around it. There are always other options. This applies to any situation. I love the fact that I could improvise to solve any problem I had.

I have seen people, dance, music, history of another land. This has opened my mind and made me appreciate much more the world and everything that’s beautiful in it.

I love India. I love Rajasthan more.
I
lost weight, then gained again.

I realised how much my parents meant to me. I realised how important family was.

My bargaining skills have improved

Some advice to the brave

Advice to fellow travellers:

Always head for an information counter. Get maps. Ask for recommendation of on a place to stay. The best place to eat and what to eat. The best and easiest route to cover all the touristy sites. Even where to get a bicycle for hire.

When travelling, make sure you get to the next destination with enough time to find a place to stay.

Never take tri-shaws from near train or bus stations

Never let a tempo guy take you to a place to stay. He always gets a commission and because of that the room rate you have to pay is more. (Find out from others where to go and go directly there no matter what the tempo guy says.)

Never shop from the shops near touristy sites. Always ask for the market or the best place to buy xyz products.

The best places to go are the untouristy places. Walking the streets, looking for places to catch the sunrise and sunset, the inside roads, the small tea shops etc.

Don’t become too friendly or trust the locals. Always keep in mind that most people are out to get your money.

Carry a notebook and a camera and tell people that you’re a student.

Find out what time the Check out is at the Hotel. For most it is the morning about 10.00 am. The best is when you have the place for 24 hours.

When taking a tempo make sure that you negotiate for him to drop you at the doorstep of the place you want to go to. If you can, find out from the locals how much roughly a tempo would take to take you there before you get in.

Buy the local News paper and keep up with local events and happenings. It also gives you something to read and other useful uses.

Don’t piss the locals off…

Try and blend in

Some more advice to the brave

Advice to fellow travellers:

Always head for an information counter. Get maps. Ask for recommendation of on a place to stay. The best place to eat and what to eat. The best and easiest route to cover all the touristy sites. Even where to get a bicycle for hire.

When travelling, make sure you get to the next destination with enough time to find a place to stay.

Never take tri-shaws from near train or bus stations

Never let a tempo guy take you to a place to stay. He always gets a commission and because of that the room rate you have to pay is more. (Find out from others where to go and go directly there no matter what the tempo guy says.)

Never shop from the shops near touristy sites. Always ask for the market or the best place to buy xyz products.

The best places to go are the untouristy places. Walking the streets, looking for places to catch the sunrise and sunset, the inside roads, the small tea shops etc.

Don’t become too friendly or trust the locals. Always keep in mind that most people are out to get your money.

Carry a notebook and a camera and tell people that you’re a student.

Find out what time the Check out is at the Hotel. For most it is the morning about 10.00 am.

The best is when you have the place for 24 hours.

When taking a tempo make sure that you negotiate for him to drop you at the doorstep of the place you want to go to. If you can, find out from the locals how much roughly a tempo would take to take you there before you get in.

Buy the local News paper and keep up with local events and happenings. It also gives you something to read and other useful uses.

Don’t piss the locals off…

Try and blend in

Some advise on travelling by camels

Tips to fellow camel riders

The guy behind the desk doesn’t really have any control. Over what camel you ride so requests like making sure the guide has his own camel etc. won’t really be passed down. The guy to speak on that is the local that comes with you in the jeep.

Insist that you want a guide that has his own camel

Go when the moon is at its fullest. It’s magical.

Make sure that you get to control your won camel and also run. (running was the one thing I could not fully do)

When controlling the camel always speak to it. Continuously speak to it. Sing songs to it. They very easily forget that there is a rider sitting on their back and then do what ever please them.

Trust the camel. You are only a guide. He knows the way better than you do. This is a tough one

Take the food you want if you want any special goodies.

Travel light. Blankets etc. are not really necessary.

450/- is the price I paid and that’s damn good. But bring additional to pay the guide. Buying him a gift is not worth. If you want to bring gifts, bring beedi’s or liquor for him. But he will most prefer money.

Avoid giving things to the villagers even if the cutest girl in the world asks for anything.

You can go see Dhanni directly. Take a chance and go to his village of Kotri. Busses leave from Hanuman Circle at 3.30

My apologies

For those who go through the trouble of visiting my blog, my apologies to them for the size of the last entry. I know its long. its more of a personal account of my travels. I few more things i want to say regarding my travels in the next couple of posts, but i promise they will not be as long...

Someone pls tell me how to upload pics onto this site.

Hitchhikers guide to india (this is really long)

Excerpts from the journal of a restless traveller

“the joy of travelling is not having a destination to arrive to”

4th of November to the 23rd of November 2005

These have been the most memorable and amazing experiences of my life.


There are just too many memories, places, experiences and people I have met to write about it. It is just too overwhelming. It is a task that I do not think I can undertake.
But what I will attempt to do is give you a snapshot of a few highlights and memories of my tour.
For further information and travelling advice and tips please do not hesitate to contact me on murtazais@gmail.com

Total duration: 18 days
Total states visited: Maharashtra, Gujarat, Rajasthan, Uttar Pradesh and Delhi


I can't show the cost break down by city but the total cost (includes extra shopping of pants, shirt, and shoes.) was 7315 INR

Average spend per day 400/- INR
SL rate for 1 INR was approx 2.4

The planning stage
Arun back at Leo had mentioned camel safari and Rajasthan. For some reason the place stuck in my head although I did not know too much about it prior to actually visiting the place. The other option that I explored was Jammu and Kashmir. The thought of seeing snow for the very first time and trekking in the mountains was very exciting.
When was I checked the internet to book my train tickets (which were an amazing breeze), I realised that I was running out of time for making my decision. The ticket was booked o the 18th of October. There were just a few seats left! If I had waited another day, I wouldn’t have got a seat at all and would have got delayed. Up until the last moment I was undecided about where to go. Kashmir had a tourist infor office at the World Trade Centre in Mumbai, but they were not of any real valuable help. Only gave me a book of packages. Also the tour places I called up were not flexible enough to provide me with what I wanted i.e. a hiking route for a lone traveller through Kashmir. Also what swayed me towards Rajasthan was an absolutely amazing website with all the information I could want. Even better than that was a chat room on 24 hours call to answer queries and give advice. That just about sold me on the state.
Having made the decision, I decided on the places that I wanted to touch base at. I skipped Mount Abu because it sounded very touristy. The Lonely Planet….my bible also played a big role here. I knew that I had to finish up on the 21st to Delhi so I worked backwards. I also knew that I would want to spend the most amount of time in Jaiselmer if I could find myself on a Camel. If not, I would explore elsewhere.
I was also advised to go to the Taj Mahal as I would be so close to it. I did not intend to try and go there, because I was told that it had become extremely touristy and commercialised, but since I was in the vicinity, I thought I’d do it anyway. I was also told to stop by at Ahmedabad and do Zayarat (pilgrimage) as it was on the way and make the most of that opportunity.
I did not worry at all about places to stay. Prior to departure, I had gone to a travel Agent in Mumbai representing the Rajasthan tourist office (as the building the office was at in fort had collapsed) – Tanishq Travels and Tours. They had helped my by giving me a list of RTDC hotels and the places that would have dorms which would cost around 50/-
I had decided to be as free wheeling as possible. Sleep on the buses (travelling in the night) as much as possible.

In preparing what to take, I had my hiking bag (gotten from House of Fashion for SLR 1200/-), my pouch, and a sling bag.
In the Haversack...
- I put in (with a bit of hesitation) Paren and Sayo – for use in Ahmedabad.
- An extra (long sleeved) shirt I put in at the last moment – which were all the clothes I had apart from my black longs and shirt.
- Cap and sunny’s.
- Jacket, blanket and thick woolly socks.
- Water bottle,
- In the side pockets, medicine (Vitamin C, a couple of panadols, a couple of tablets for shitting, plasters). Vicks Balm, Samahan tooth brush, Wintogeno, Rubber bands, a small bottle of liquid soap, a couple of shampoo sachets, a couple of sachets of liquid soap for washing clothes (which were never used) and my phone charger.
- I had taken with me 6 film rolls (bought 3 more on the way)
- A few very small disposable hankies, toilet paper that I had unrolled to save space, a couple of underwear and a very small towel.

In the belt pouch I had my journal, wallet, sunny’s and my survival kit.
In the sling bag had the lonely planet and camera. Had the passport too.
My money was divided thus:
- 3 thousand in cash (of which 1000 was in the haversack)
- 1 TC in the sling bag
- 1 TC in the haversack

Health
I was never seriously ill except for a cold that accompanied me most of the way and head aches if I did not eat. A thorn (as strong as an iron went in right thru my nail in Jodhpur). I had a bit of nose bleed. It was kinda bad when I reached Delhi in the night; I guess it had to do with the cold.
I used to apply balm on my chest and nose, Wintogeno in my back and feet and knees almost every night. I also tried to take a Vitamin C tablet everyday in the morning.

The Train Journey
I had boarded at about 10.30 pm. On the 4th of November. The only thing to do was get comfortable on my berth and sleep through the night. The best berth to sleep on is the upper. They had my name printed out and stuck on the train near the entrance. That seemed so cool. Tip. Always keep your bag close to with the zip facing inward and keep it on the opposite side of the corridor. This is so that people who try to steal it would have a harder (though not impossible) task of stealing it.
It is fascinating watching everyone and the world waking up. What woke me and most other up was the incessant calling of the Chai walla’s and the other food vendors. The food was amazing, but a bit monotonous after a while. Nothing substantial, but still better than our local Wadai’s. They also have people selling 1/- water sachets, Poun bhaji, singh, etc. Even basic fried dhal is never sold plain. They always add masala. They also have masala tea. It is very interesting chatting with people, and I learned that they become more interested to know that you are a foreigner, but can still converse in Hindi. But this area is Gujarat, so most of the people were speaking Gujrati. Such a powerful feeling to know that you can understand (roughly) what they are saying.
The kids here eat Badaam (almonds) like most other kids would eat toffees. No wonder they are so strong. It’s meant to be brain food.
As the day progressed, the train get more and more crowded. I got the perfect seat at the emergency exit; cuz the window doesn’t have metal grills. The only problem is that people getting in and out use this as a short cut to get themselves and their luggage in. The crowd became so bad that every seat that would normally seat 1 person seated 2. Berths are given up during the day. So my berth seat was not mine during the day. What smart people did was to climb up there and stretch out. Then they go to sleep or at least pretend to, so that they can keep the entire seat to themselves.
Tip: watch out for Hijra’s. They can be annoying if they pick on you…but otherwise quite entertaining. The 1st impression I had and one which never left was how huge the land looked and even felt.
Tip: Never take a tempo (tri-shaw) from a train or bus station. They charge pretty close to almost double.
Night 1 was spent lying down on a mattress with about 30 others in a big hall. I had 3 meals and quite a good time there.

Ahmedabad:
This city is split into 2 by the river. The old city is one side, with the new on the other.
There is quite a lot to see and I think I made the right decision in hiring a tempo to take me around.
Had a hair cut here, because lengthy hair is a no no while travelling. It was at this time and this very city in which Sri Lanka were playing their cricket match and loosing the series very badly. I’ve always had amazing and interesting conversations with the locals. What was very interesting was that with my hair cut I also get a face wash and massage with moisturiser to complete it. Temperature becomes chilly the moment the sun sets. It’s a bit like Kandy now. But can manage without the jacket.
The next day went on my tour. Began at 8.00 and completed at about 3 with a very late lunch. The guy probably never expected me to spend so much time at each location. There was quite a lot packed in. 9 religious sites and about 16 other interest sites. I made sure that I knew where we were going and kept checking with him and ticking them off to ensure we went every where. Again lonely planet to the rescue. If not, he would have mumbled out a number of locations and taken me to only a handful of places.
Along the way he also took me to the bus stand to get a ticket to Udaipur. I got a ticket straight from the RTDC stand instead of a travel agent. This left me with the impression that the public busses are cheaper. This was not really the case all over. But I used the public buses most of time because they were more responsible, on time and probably trustable.
The tour cost me 400/-
Unfortunately my first bus experience was an awful one. I had bought the 11.00 night ticket… or so I thought. I made myself nicely comfortable in the seat and then someone comes and says that the seat is there’s. The office tells me that I have got a ticket for 11 am, instead of pm. The fools. This is also the last bus. After a bit of letting off steam, the conductor tells me to get on anyway. I won’t get a seat, but at least I’ll get to Udaipur. So I’m at the back of the bus and I make myself pretty comfortable on the floor. There’s a narrow space in the aisle that I lie down on. After a bit of time, something extremely solid makes a loud bang as it hits something. I realise that the something is my head. After that realisation, the pain hits me and I am shaken and quite stirred for a while wondering what the hell just happened to me. A metal container fell from the luggage rack onto my head. The lady who owned it was very sorry and even offered to malish (massage) my head. She had a couple of kids. Noisy. Before I could lie down in my narrow space, she put one of the kids down there. So I had no choice but to squeeze myself with the kid. Squashing the poor fellow in the process.

Udaipur
Landed at 4.30 am. Was freezing. Like Hatton in the morning. Found out that I really didn’t have to book the bus in advance. In all my travelling, coming a couple of hours early to the stand was quite good enough.
Used what I thought was a popular landmark and began walking towards it. I learned that for someone who does not have a problem walking (like me – because, I would walk an average of about 10 km a day) the distances were not all that far. Even for a place that people say is at the other end of the town, it is walkable. You only have to make the decision of whether or not you can afford to spend the energy to walk all the way there.
I tried to time my travels so that I reach every city at about this time in the morning. Then I always made it a point to get to the highest location and catch the sunrises. They were absolutely always amazing and worth it and something I recommend every traveller to try and do.
What was amazing about this place was that more than the typical locations such as the City Palace, the Baag, Moti Magri to which everyone’s goes (I did too), it was more amazing to walk the side streets. I walked along each and every street I could find. It was amazing because they were narrow. Tiny. Wide enough for 2 bicycles at the most. The walls all had colourful paintings. There was Rangoli on a lot of the doors. I followed the newspaper man and the milk man as they did their rounds. Eventually I found my way down to Lake Pichola. Here the locals come and bathe themselves, their utensils and their clothes. Feed the pigeons; get ready for work or school. It was wonderful witnessing all this. In the morning after breakfast I was at a loss as to what to do next. Should I go sight seeing or find a place to stay? Found myself in a bhora district and on a whim asked a bhori if there was a mosque close by. Not knowing what I would do if there was one close by or even if I would go there. He said that there was a musafar khana that I could go to and there I would even find a place to stay and eat. After getting directions to that place I went sight seeing.
My load seemed so much more lighter every time I made a plan. Usually the plan was only as long term as the night. But it still made the day seem much better having a plan. I would go to Moti Magri…a hill a bit of a distance away and tire myself out if I have to….because I knew that I had a comfortable place to stay. I also would have a fall back option in case of an emergency which was to find the RTDC hotel. But I found out later that these places were quite expensive and hardly ever had dorms.
The other amazing thing that I did was to find a really amazing place to watch the sunset. I have become such a fan of these. Then after this I went for a cultural evening. Experienced dance and music that I have never before. It was so wonderful, I cannot describe it in words.
I realised what a huge advantage I have. I let people assume I am Indian. This gets me into places other people cannot. But more importantly gets me at a cheaper price. Sometimes the difference I save is enormous.
Learning the story about a historical artefact or location makes the object come alive. So I learnt to follow guides. If there is a tour group ahead of me, sometimes I become part of that group (never staying with the same group for long). I usually have my note book out and follow them around. Get amazing tips and save a hell of a lot of money.
There are two ways of viewing these buildings. Either you can just immerse yourself in them and guess what everything means or you can search for the story. I think both are cool. The story brings things to life.
Another thing I learned is that having the camera out can be a disadvantage at times. But a camera and a notebook is a super cool thing. People think you’re a reporter or what better is that people think you’re a student. Sometimes I went around pretending to be an art student.
I feel so sorry for the donkeys I see. They are usually slave driven doing hard work. On road construction for example they are seen carrying heavy loads of rocks. They are the typical Eeyore. Head down seemingly taking all the punishment people give them. The height of their servitude must be the way they are coloured i